Everyone has an idea about Debbie-downers who make us negative and bring us down with them. For them, life is totally against them and they can never catch a break. Finally, they become isolated due to their negativity and bad inside them.
Each one of us in this negative society complains once in a while. According to Dr. Robin Kowalski, professor of psychology at Clemson University, complaining isn’t a thing that is unusual at all. It’s perfectly normal.
Archetypes Of Negativity
But everyone with a negative state of mind does not show their worldview in the same manner. Pessimism too has a diversity same as other personality traits.
Following are the three main types of complainers:
Venters: They need to be listened to. They only need a person to listen to their complaints. They soon shut down after complaining. They listen to advice.
Sympathy Seekers: These people are worse and they find out mistakes in all situations as well as people instantly. They need to one-up their misery.
Chronic Complainers: They think obsessively. This leads them to make complaints about several situations. This is called “ruminating” in scientific terms. They become more worried and anxious instead of shutting down after complaining.
Negativity Rewires The Brain
Negativity is an extreme downward spiral. It reveals your focus on problems in life more than solutions. Continuous negative sight will lead you to see the negative side of everything in life.
Try to get your way out of negative thinking whenever it arises in your mind. Instant movements to solutions are important.
Negativity destroys one’s mind and brain very soon. ” …people who routinely experience chronic stress—particularly acute, even traumatic stress—release the hormone cortisol, which literally eats away, almost like an acid bath, at the hippocampus, which is a part of the brain that’s very engaged in visual-spatial memory as well as memory for context and setting,” explained Rick Hanson, Ph.D., a psychologist and Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley.
Negativity becomes an automatic reaction when it happens again and again as a repetition. It forces the neural pathways associated with that emotion.
This allows us to change our brain most of the time!
Training your brain is everything. You can even change your outlook. The more effort you put to work hard, the more you win against negativity. Continuous positivity will also become automatic with time.
Finally, you can catch the positive!
Train our brain with these few steps:
Be grateful: Being grateful to everything that you receive is extremely important. Try to find out simple things to be grateful for each day. Write down 3 things you are grateful for every morning and every night if you maintain a journal.
Continue this if you start feeling anxious or pessimistic. List out 5 or 10 things that you’re grateful for and that’s more than enough. You will feel much happier at the end.
Catch yourself: Pay attention to words you utter and thoughts you get on your mind. Never stay until others say that you’re complaining.
Shift your energy to solve the problems and treat yourself with a nice, hot cup of tea afterwards!
Change your mood: Never think twice to exit from things that make you overwhelmed and pessimistic. Sit down with your fav book or cook up a yummy treat if you’re at home. Go to the washroom and take a break if you’re at work.
Listen to your fav song and pay attention to each word while breathing with closed eyes.
Practice wise effort: Wise effort is your skill to let go off anything that doesn’t suit you. Let things go if they won’t improve you or teach you a lesson.
Perhaps, these will be quite hard for you to do, but if you’re done, ask friends for advice and take some time to rethink.
Here are another five practices worth trying:
Source of the information: Daily Health Post